Overweight people are selfish. Yes, they really are. They are selfish people. And I am not writing this because I want you to feel bad about yourself. No, that’s not the reason. Actually realizing, that you are selfish, and if you are fat, you are selfish, and changing that can help you loose weight. I will describe the process how to do it soon.

The common wisdom could seem like those fit, lean and very healthy are those selfish ones. They work out, they pay attention to what they eat, they like their lean fit bodies. And they probably even look in the mirror more often than those unfit ones. But, the opposite is truth. Fit people are less selfish than those overweight ones.

I was talking to my friend the other day, who is also trying to loose some weight. And he really opened my eyes. He is right. I am convinced about that. He said, as long as you focus on yourself, think more about yourself, you will more likely adopt certain addiction like smoking, drinking, overeating – yes food is a form of a drug, or even anorexia. And more into yourself you are, the further you will develop this addiction. He is overweight. He is realizing that he is selfish and that’s why he is overweight. And that’s why he will change and loose weight. There is no reason to get offended by it. The right thing to do is to get motivated by it.

The more selfish you are, the fatter you are

The more you love yourself and focus on yourself, the fatter you will become if eating is that addiction you developed. When you eat, it makes you feel good and you love that feeling. When you are miserable, you close to yourself and you want to make yourself feel better. So you eat more often. And those foods that make you feel the best at the moment are those worst ones for your body weight.

When people depend on you

Imagine two scenarios.

A couple in their fifties with grown up kids, that are out of the house already. There is a plenty of time for everything. This couple enjoys themselves every day. Movies, shows, good wine, expensive restaurant food, even fast foods – Mcdonnalds food is tasty and makes you feel good for a little while. Now that kind of self indulgence is set in. This couple wants to feel good every day, they want to enjoy themselves everyday, every moment should feel good.

So when there is a rainy day outside, they reach for their goodies in their fridge. They eat. They indulge in everything. They get fat. And they get fatter over time. Entertainment and self indulgence is there every day in their life’s. They get depressed if they don’t have it. They seek it all the time. That’s why people who already “made it” loose certain edge and get very fragile and weak. They don’t have to struggle anymore. They don’t need to reach to their limits. Why? They already achieved everything they could and life is good and comfortable.

Now imagine a single mother in her late thirties. She has two kids. One is 7 and one is 9. And on top of it the 9 year old is seriously ill and requires a long term medical treatment. If this mother is a good mother and she wants to do maximum for her kids, she doesn’t have time to think much about herself. She will concentrate her all energies on her kids. She knows, she needs to stay healthy, she can’t get sick, she needs to keep her energy level high.

There is no time to get sick. There is no time to wallow in bad feeling thoughts. Time is ticking. There is a long to do list. And if she wants to make sure it gets done, she needs to be efficient. Little time? Open a fridge, eat that yogurt and go! No time to make yourself chocolate sundae and sit in front of tv and enjoy yourself. This mother is showing the ultimate unselfishness. And she is skinny! She is healthy and lean! No time to be depressed! No time for self-indulgence! She’s got the things to take care of. And others highly depend on her! She is ultimately unselfish. And that means she doesn’t have weight problems. She has bigger things to worry about than loosing weight.

Loosing weight is a petty problem of selfish people to have. There are way, way bigger problems in the world people have, than loosing weight. Like for example – surviving? Is your main goal to loose weight? If yes, we’ll than congratulation, you are way better of than 95% of people in the world. How much nicer it is a problem to loose weight, than to barely making sure your family survives say until Monday. So stop complaining and start loosing!

Now, if you have kids and you are overweight, that doesn’t mean, that you are a selfish parent. No, it just probably means you don’t have it hard enough to become totally centered on others because they highly depend on you. You probably have a good job, a lot of time off, supportive husband or wife and a lot of vacation time.

Now those who are overweight and have a lot of people in trouble depending on them, they really are selfish or they just completely gave up. Yes, there are situations where you just can’t help it, but give up. But if you just let things go how they go and you don’t do the maximum to make others depended on you well, than you are overweight because you are selfish. Well, this is just a theory, my friend told me and I happen to believe that this theory is truth theory.

Why immigrants are mostly fit and very resilient?

Why Immigrants in USA are less overweight than people born in USA? Well, they come here, get 2 jobs, their families depend on them, they send money home, they need to learn language, they live in crappy places and want to move out and they work in hard physical jobs. They have a lot on their plate. There is not much time to think about themselves. Otherwise, they and their families will end somewhere under the bridge, because they didn’t come up with that rent money at the end of the month.

Immigrating to a different country and facing all the challenges to help your family survive is unselfish act. You do it for your family. You live unselfish life. And you are not overweight.

Now take a spoiled american child grooving up having anything and everything. Life is easy and good. By the time this child finishes a good college, gets a good comfortable corporate job, the selfish kind of lifestyle is already set in. Overindulgence in food and wine is normal and slowly over time he gets fat. And the more overweight he gets the more selfish he usually is.

There is actually a reason people tend to become 10 pounds heavier every decade after the age of 30. When we get older, life becomes easier, more comfortable. We look for more luxurious vacations, better vines, we have more time for TV, movies, shows, cruises and kids are gone. We want to have more fun. We are becoming more selfish over time. Yes, there are exceptions. Of course there are.

Becoming unselfish and loosing weight

Become unselfish even if your circumstances don’t help you now, not everybody can become a single struggling parent or immigrant, will help you loose weight. It would be fantastic to give up some selfishness and live unselfish life’s in order to reap the benefits it provides, loosing weight included. And that is the primary reason, I am reminding you about it. No, there is nothing wrong with being selfish. We all are to the certain point. And, yes, if you become less selfish than you are know, you will loose weight!

So how do you do that? Put more on your to do list! Or if you already have a lot on your plate, do it better and more efficiently. Few examples how to become less selfish:

Volunteer for animal shelter

Volunteer for animal shelter more, not only 1 hour per week, do it 15 hours per week

Help underprivileged kids

Tutor underprivileged kids

Help old people

Start a nonprofit or for profit business to save nature and environment

Adopt a child

Start interesting projects that you actually bring to completion where you help other people

Make your child a golf champion by training him every day

Adopt a pet

And many many others

For all these, you need good health and energy and to be efficient to do them well. If you do these stuff and you are still overweight, you can do it better and more efficiently and of course longer. Why are you holding back? Why would you only work 1 hour for animal shelter if you could give it everything you have? Why would you practice soccer with your child only for 30 minutes, if you can spend with him/her the whole 2 hours on playground? Maybe you say: that is all I can do. And than you go back to enjoying yourself. If you have these kind of attitude, loosing weight might be impossible for you.

My last advice will be: get more unselfish and loose weight at the same time. Don’t believe it? Try it and you will be surprised. But, you have to really, really, really try it!

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