We all want to be attractive and we always want to know how to become more attractive. We would pay anything to become more attractive than we are now. I am not different. If you possess some product or service that will make people turn around on the street to just look at me, because I look amazing, I want it. Just don’t offer me special all natural wigs. They don’t work. I already tried it.
We all can be very attractive. It takes a lot of work, but it is possible to become very attractive person. It doesn’t matter how ugly you are when you are just starting.
Many people give up on their attractiveness pursuit half way through on their roads. And they become very happy with just what they are. And that’s very unattractive.
Depak Chopra said that, the secret of attraction is to love yourself. Attractive people judge neither themselves nor others. They are open to gestures of love. They think about love, and express their love in every action.
While I absolutely agree with Depaks statement of attraction, I think he forgot to ad a physical part of ourselves – general fitness, health and energy. I am certain he mentions it somewhere later in his publication.
I agree, that being attractive doesn’t start with physical appearance. And mental qualities like kindness, intelligence and inner love are more important. And inspire of what I just wrote, they are not. And I will explain that later.
The kind, generous, intelligent, overweight, loving couch potato is not attractive.
Physical side of us is very important to add to our overall attractiveness. If your body is ill, overweight, inactive and sick, I don’t care how kind and generous you are, how much you love yourself and others, you are not attractive. Let’s not kid ourselves here. Attractive people, the ones we are getting our neck twisted when we see them on the street, look physically fit and healthy. And there is certain high energy aura around them.
Now, a lot of people will hate me for what I am about to write next. If you are generally nice person, you are kind, intelligent, loving, always helping others and you are incredibly generous and your body suffers from lack of exercise, bad diet and sedentary lifestyle, you are not only very unattractive, but also very selfish too. Yes, you are unattractive, lazy, selfish person.
Why? Simply because, if you were fitter, healthier and took better care of your body, you would be even nicer, kinder, more loving intelligent person, that could help even more people. Why are you holding on those qualities back? I have only one answer to that. You are selfish and lazy and stuck in your – I am already a very nice person world.
We can play nice crafty games with ourselves. Like: I am nice, intelligent, kind and smart person, I love myself and I think I am doing everything right to be attractive. OK, I usually eat garbage food and enjoy couch time with legs up quite often. But, I have very likable and attractive inner qualities. How dare somebody to criticize me?
In my case, I could improve my own attractiveness by being more in service to other people. Instead of helping a friend in need the other weekend I choosed to go surfing instead and have fun. That wouldn’t be as bad if I did it occasionally, but I do it all the time. I don’t care that close friend needs my help when it’s fun surfing time and I rather choose to hang out on the beach instead. Of course, that makes me unattractive and selfish and many times downright ugly.
And I will hopefully some day try to improve that. But I don’t see it coming soon. Passing a nice day on the beach is simply too much to give up for me right now, even if that would make me more attractive overall. I am willing to pay that price. Feel free to call me if you need anything on Saturday morning. I will most likely delete your message before even hearing it. You might get my voicemail saying: Hi, you’ve reached Milan. Don’t bother me, surf’s up!
And of course, that’s very unattractive. Yes, I struggle with it and it bothers me, but I learned to live with that, the same way sick couch potato learned to live with being overweight, tired and unhealthy.
The point is, you can always become more attractive. The question is: Do you really want to? And for many people it is not worth the effort. Please, don’t become one of them. This world is already very full of unattractive people. I am going to try, to skip my surfing next time somebody needs my help, to become a right example of being the person who strives to become more attractive. Anybody want’s to join me surfing? I can be very helpful teaching you to catch your first wave 🙂
The true attractive people. Hint: You can be one.
I know very physically fit beautiful, attractive people, that are also very generous, intelligent, smart, kind, loving, self confident and pushing themselves even further to achieve even better physical strength, endurance and overall energy that comes with it. These people are attractive. Yes, they posses those inner qualities that attractive people need to possess, but on the top of it is their incredible physical fitness, health and energy. So, if you are a nice person and people love you for your inner qualities, maybe it’s time to look at your physical side too.
Becoming more attractive.
Physical qualities matter. And they matter a lot. If they didn’t, than desperate housewives wouldn’t cheat on their husbands with their personal trainers and pool cleaning boys.
Did you hear husbands and boyfriend what I just said. It doesn’t matter how kind you are and how intelligent you are or caring. If you are not physically fit, you are not attractive. And your wife will probably dump you sooner or later. Watch out!
Of course, even if you are physically fit and you are a jerk, you are not attractive either. You are simply a fit dumb, selfish unattractive body of muscles that just stays in everybody’s way. And people will find that out sooner or later.
The most attractive people have the whole package. They look fit, they are healthy, they are self confident, intelligent and genuinely nice and kind and yes, they love themselves and they have every reason to do so.
Attractive doesn’t mean good looking. Not at all. There are so many good looking unattractive people in this world. Attractive means, that you are trying hard to be attractive, that it really matters to you. And you didn’t give up on becoming even more attractive.
It doesn’t matter how old you are. People often assume, that when they get older, they stop being attractive. This is of course not true at all. I remember asking 63 years old very attractive aerobic instructor out when I was 23 on college, because she was more attractive than the entire long legged cheerleader group in our athletic school full of barbie-like looking blonds, that were all dumb like a telephone post. She would eventually turn me down, because she had this 37 year old boyfriend than was way more attractive than I was. Later on I found out, that more guys from my class tried to ask her out, but they were also not successful.
Attractive people attract attractive people. Ugly, unattractive person doesn’t even notices attractive person. Often, he doesn’t even know, what’s attractive. That’s why you often see very unattractive couple sitting in Burger King enjoying their dinner together. They are happy together. They don’t put pressure on each other to become more attractive. They already gave up. And that’s very sad.
So, to be become more attractive, work more on being even nicer, even more loving, and yes, love yourself more, be even more generous, more self confident. But don’t forget that physical part either. You are not attractive, unless you are healthy, fit, with lots of energy to spare and I don’t care how much you love yourself and others. Get to work. Get more attractive.